Is There a BEST Time To Have Sex?
Sex. Oh yes, our favorite past time right or is it? It is said that in our 20s we have more sex due to the lack of responsibilities and demands that life puts on us and then comes family and career. There has been many experts that contend that you should schedule sex but really what the hell does that mean?
For many of us the thrill of sex is the spontaneity. You know the elevator sex… laundry room sex… the… well you get my drift. When the thought of “sex night” enters your mind, do you picture a couple awkwardly trying to be sexy? Hell I know I do but it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are 5 ways to make “sex night” the TRUTH!
1. Start the seduction that morning: Do something out of the ordinary that is sexually suggestive that let’s your partner know you’re turned on by just the thought of the night to come.
2. Wear their favorites: This could be a cologne or perfume that drives them wild,a certain color they love to see you in, an item of clothing or hell nothing at all.
3. Sexting: Yes Yes I said it….sexting. A lot of people have sexting all wrong because they make it so distasteful BUT if done right, it can really build up anticipation. Sext things like giving your desires or that you love when they do certain things and how it turns you on. Sext a pic of their favorite body part of yours and tell them what you want them to do to it later. get creative.
4. Actually go on a date: Sex night is about the build up… the anticipation of the “spike”. Do something together that gets the adrenaline pumping or gets those mental juices flowing with some good old mind sex.
5.Do something naughty: Adventure is definitely something that should be put into play when you aren’t able to do the deed as much as you would like to. Take this time to make this night a night to bring you or your partner’s fantasies come true. Then swap it out.
Now how often should you have “sex night”. Leave it up to me I’d say every night BUT realistically that isn’t a go. The 1 to 2 days of the month should be dedicated to erotic passion to ensure that you keep your partners attention in the bedroom and they keep yours. Make it an every other weekend treat, that way both of you get your core needs met once a month. If time permits, up the ante.
I want to hear from you! Throw in any ideas or experience you’ve had with scheduling a sex night with your partner…. Remember sharing is caring!
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I think this is a terrific blog Paige! You hit on so many things that couples should be taking advantage of in their sex lives! Too often couples tend to become complacent with their partners & forget that you must find different things to do to keep the spice in your sex life. Some great tips were provided as well! And as I said before.. don’t be afraid to tell your partner what you need from them… you may be surprised at the response!
Paige,
First let me say that I love your blogs and you really make valid points in everything you say. I personally say anytime is a good time to have sex. If you want to fuck….fuck. You shouldn’t withhold from your partner just because of timing…because then their may never be a “right time.” But what about the people that have children? I mean I know there have been times when I have been in a relationship and I’m still going to fuck…maybe not in the open but I lock the doors and keep her or me from making loud noises. Is that bad? I mean you gotta get it in sometime right?
Lol yeah doc I’d suppose so. Of course with me not having any kids and having a pretty sexual appetite, I can’t see how people don’t get creative and make time for passion in their lives. I’m definitely not saying make it first priority BUT it should be in the top 5. When your sex life suffers, it spills over into other areas of life.
I’d have to say, the morning….for some it’s an issue cause they insecure of morning breath but you in bed with your partner ya’ll cozy, warm bodies…morning wood…it’s magical…..
Also, when you feel it. You ever have that moment when it’s like you and that other person lock eyes and you know you thinking the same thing but you use restraint? That’s the perfect time, the passion is right….Unfortunately we live in the real world and it just don’t go down like that